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A. The simple answer is yes, you should be able to. However, you should be unwilling or even feel the need to do this. My question to you, “Is this about lack of trust in your current relationship or baggage from a previous relationship?” A healthy relationship should give you security and trust.
A. You should do exactly what you want to do. If you’re OK with splitting the check, keep seeing him. (Splitting checks is perfectly acceptable; however, I do recommend that men wait before bringing it up.) If you’re looking for permission to not see him anymore, permission granted! 🙂 Dating someone who you aren’t aligned with is a waste of time. You could be out with friends or pursuing someone you are aligned with. It seems the issue is about how it made you feel. If you’re being courted by someone, you should feel pursued and invested in. If not, it’s great to have a new friend, but keep looking for that relationship.
A. Hmmm…I don’t have much background to go on, but here’s my general take: Six months is a chunk of time. I don’t think he would stick around for that long if he didn’t care about you on some level. You may have caught him off guard! Give this man a moment to process it. I see only having a couple of options, since you put the “L word” out there.
A. I side with Mom. This is a problem on multiple fronts.
A. I learned this lesson a long time ago: Take people at their word when they say things like this. They say one thing, but act another way. One moment, they don’t want to date you. The next moment, you’re in an intimate situation followed by, “Remember, I told you; I didn’t want to date you.” This person is keeping you around because they can’t fully leave. They want one foot in the door and the other foot out. I’d slam that door shut on their behalf.
A. Simple answer: yes.